Maribeth Doerr

Shades of Healing ~ Creating a Wholehearted Life

Friday Faves – The Most Important Question You Can Ask

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

Eric Klein has an amazing website and newsletter called Wisdom Heart. In his newsletter on Wednesday, he closes with this incredible thought:

Albert Einstein said that the most important question a person can ask – and answer – is this: “Is the Universe friendly?”
What makes this such a critical question? Because, how you answer determines the degree of openness of your “door of consciousness.”
“If your mind perceives the Universe as unfriendly – it will contract and defend the borders of identity from all “foreign influences” – including wisdom, health, love, and joy.
But, as you attune to gratitude, the defensive postures of consciousness relax.  The cells of your body and the petals of your mind to receive the ever-present blessings of Life.  You realize – you’re surrounded!  What a blessing.”
Incredible right?  How do you perceive the Universe?
You can learn more about Eric’s work at
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Friday Faves – Helping, Fixing or Serving?

mary and mariFor those of you who like to serve others, here’s a wonderful article by Rachel Naomi Remen, MD.   I think it’s important to think about the why behind our efforts to work with others and this article helps us do that by asking if we’re there to help, fix or serve . . .

Helping, fixing and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. When you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul.

Doesn’t that make you pause and rethink what you’re doing and what’s your motivation?  I love to “help” but I don’t think I see life as weak.  Have I been conveying that to people?  Perhaps I’ve been serving all along (because it does feel like soul work) and it’s a matter of semantics.  Whatever it is, it’s good to think about it and reassess my big WHY.  Here’s another juicy quote:

Those who serve have traded a sense of mastery for an experience of mystery, and in doing so have transformed their work and their lives into practice.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this article!

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Friday Faves – What’s your miracle?

I admit I’m a sap about a lot of things, but this Youtube video probably makes even the toughest of the tough cry.  Meet Charlotte Bottger who has cerebral palsy.  Like most little girls, she has dreams of being a ballerina.  Her father raised enough money to bring Charlotte to the USA for surgery that would help her walk.  This video is Charlotte dancing with David Pickering and Sander Blommaert of The Royal Ballet at the Royal Opera House in London.  It is precious and delightful and full of inspiration, and you’ll need kleenex at the end when she says, “I’m a ballerina.”  Yes Charlotte, you are!

Charlotte’s story was featured on a TV show called ‘What would be your Miracle?’ on  This makes me ask, what would be your miracle?  It doesn’t have to be some big medical cure.  Miracles come in all sizes.  So I ask, what would be yours?

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Friday Faves – What it means to “hold space” for people, plus eight tips on how to do it well

For the last year, I’ve been a hospice volunteer.  One of these days I’ll write about what it means to me to do this work, but right now, my heart is a bit too tender to do that.  My most recent patient died this past Monday night.  She was a character, and I can only hope that my visits helped her a tiny fraction of what I felt from spending these precious last weeks of her life with her.

It’s with this hard joyful work in my heart that I introduce you to an extraordinary woman named Heather Plett.  I was taking an online mandala class with her when her mother died.  A year ago, Heather wrote an amazing article, What it means to “hold space” for people, plus eight tips on how to do it well, that was birthed out her experiences with her mother.  It seems ironic that this post is going viral now, 14 months later, but I’m so glad it is.  As a hospice volunteer, “holding space” is what we do.  But truthfully, this is a gift we can give ANYONE, not just the dying and the bereaved.  Anyone who needs someone to listen will benefit from a kind soul holding space for them . . . and Heather explains how to do just that.

Please give it a read and while you’re there, learn more about Heather and her work.

And um, hold space for me tomorrow, May 14, and I remember my mom on what would have been her 88th birthday, which also happens to be my birthday.  Thank you!

God’s blessings to all of you . . .


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Friday Faves – Wild Horses and a proud daddy

I love to listen to X Factor, The Voice, and Britain’s Got Talent auditions on YouTube.  I stumbled onto one from BGT a few weeks ago, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind.  Not only is this young Welsh singer incredible, but she seems so genuine.  The judges clearly adored her, including Simon Cowell!  Her father is in the audience and the look of nervousness and pride on his face is so precious . . . OMG I wanted to hug him as well!  Wild Horses is a great song but listen to this version and see what you think.  Maybe it’ll touch your soul like it’s touched mine. <3


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Friday Faves – Crusty Rustic Bread

Since the holidays of 2015, I’ve rediscovered my love of baking.  I scour Pinterest for recipes and I usually try a new one on Saturday afternoons.  A blog post is forthcoming on the whys and wherefores of this discovery (and yes, it’s grief-related).    In the meantime, one of my favorite finds is a recipe for Crusty Rustic Bread.  I’ve made this one at least five times, and it’s always good.  And the best part . . . there’s no kneading!  You toss four ingredients together, leave it in a covered bowl on your counter for about 18 hours, and then pop into the oven.  Easy peasy and it’s scrummy (as Mary Berry from The Great British Baking Show would say).

The recipe is on a blog called Cooking Classy at – check it out and make your own!

I have some proving on my counter now.  When I pull it out of the oven tomorrow, I’ll snap a picture for you.  YUM!

Edited to add photos:

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Fresh out of the oven – smells divine!









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Friday Faves – Prince Performs “Purple Rain” During Downpour at the Super Bowl

A Friday Fave (posted on a Saturday)!

Prince died last week, and if you’re like me, you’ve been listening to his tunes with a heavy and yet a full heart.  He was SO magical.  One of my favorite Prince performances is his Super Bowl half-time show.  It was February 4, 2007 in Miami and it was DUMPING rain!  Prince, being the quintessential performer that he was, wasn’t deterred by the weather at all.  In fact, as the narrator of this video tells us, Prince used it to his advantage and made his performance even more magical.  He was stormed upon and still brought what he brought, which was so special.  When they told him that morning that it was raining, Prince replied, “Yes, it’s raining.”  When asked if he was okay, he asked, “Can you make it rain harder?”  What a lesson for all of us in taking what you have and storming with it.

If you have 8 minutes, this is well worth the watch.  And I’d love to have his outfit here; it’s my color!

RIP Prince.  We shall miss you but Darlin’ your music will live forever!

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